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CEBers Share Takeaways from the S.H.E. Summit

4 January, 2017

The S.H.E. Summit held on 28 and 29 October in New York City featured more than 50 men and women who presented their messages to encourage and uplift women in support of gender diversity. The summit, founded by Claudia Chan, is a “membership-driven, global empowerment conference devoted to supporting, not only holistically thriving leaders (and their organizations), but also movement-drivers around the world.” From singer Kelly Clarkson to Wall Street dynamo Carla Harris, the conference buzzed with noteworthy speakers sharing insight and experiences connected to this year’s theme “Rise and Lift.”

Ten CEBers attended the summit, highlighting their time at the event live via CEB’s Instagram account. In this blog post, three attendees provide a deeper dive into their experiences, takeaways, and “a-ha” moments.

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Women at CEB Delegation at Red Rooster: from left to right – Lily Jaskiel, Pelagia Shipman, Nobar Golhar, Kristen Howe, Debby Thomas, Leda Nelson, Jessica Cash, Tonja Hardyman, and Becky Abraham (Not Pictured: Jen Buckner)

Work-Life Balance Is Not New, But Still Necessary

Takeaways from Women at CEB member Debby Thomas, Professional Development Academy Moderator

“Life is like a big, gooey, dripping, amazing, home-made pie.” That was the metaphor author Samantha Ettus shared from her book “The Pie of Life: A Guilt Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction.” In other words, a pie has a finite size and you get to choose how you slice the pie, which areas of your life get bigger and smaller slices. There is no guilt in deciding that some areas of life deserve a smaller slice. This can also shift over time. Samantha’s words reminded me that we choose what we give more and less of ourselves to. We can’t do everything equally well; we have limits and need to make choices.

Gretchen Rubin (Author, The Happiness Project)

Gretchen Rubin (Author, The Happiness Project)

Are you inwardly or outwardly motivated? Gretchen Rubin author of “The Happiness Project” shared her four tendencies framework to discover how you respond to expectation. Rubin helps you understand your own motivation to succeed and the motivation of others. Once you know if you are inwardly or outwardly motivated, you can find ways to hold yourself accountable to follow through on the things that matter to you – the things that will help you be happier and live a more balanced life.

Invest in what matters vs. “having it all.” A panel of women (including Kelly Clarkson) discussed investing your time in “what matters” over “having it all”. The idea was that no one can have it all, we need to make choices about what is most important and make sacrifices as well. Identifying what matters most to you is the first step. Then organizing your life to include the things and people that matter most is the second step.

From left to right: Claudia Chan (Founder, S.H.E. Summit), Kelly Clarkson (Singer), Chloe Coscarelli (Vegan Chef), and Ellen Seckler (EVP Marketing, Citizen Watch Company)

From left to right: Claudia Chan (Founder, S.H.E. Summit), Kelly Clarkson (Singer), Chloe Coscarelli (Vegan Chef), and Ellen Seckler (EVP Marketing, Citizen Watch Company)

 

The Three D’s Encourage a New Working Parent

Takeaways from Women at CEB member Nobar Golhar, New Product Development Consultant

Learn to delegate. It’s ok to drop the ball sometimes. And, don’t feel guilty about asking for help or realizing you can’t be everywhere and do everything all the time. As a new working parent (I’m a mother to a wonderful 8.5-month old), those three D’s were magic to my ears.

Delegating first surfaced during the aforementioned panel discussion with prominent speakers, including musician Kelly Clarkson, vegan chef and restaurateur Chloe Coscarelli, and Citizen Watch marketing executive Ellen Seckler. These women are all wildly successful in their respective fields. And they all agreed that they couldn’t have achieved a fraction of their success without asking for help and delegating responsibilities.

The issue of dropping the ball came up during a keynote by author Tiffany Dufu. Tiffany spoke about the importance of learning to release or let go in order to survive. She encouraged the audience to think about dropping the ball not as a negative (or a failure), but as a freeing experience (relieving yourself of an unnecessary burden).

Shifting your mindset allows you to prioritize and focus on what matters to you most. And, it will let you be OK with the fact that yes, you may occasionally ‘drop the ball’ in the process. So, not only are you losing unrealistic expectations and fear, you’re also gaining something very important-your sanity.

Lastly, the idea of not feeling guilty was one that really resonated as it’s something I believe almost all working parents, and specifically working women deal with on a regular basis. Many moms who love their careers still feel occasional guilt for choosing work over staying home with their baby, or for taking a business trip instead of making it to their kid’s recital, etc. So, choose to play in six or seven of these slices. And, in order to prevent that guilt from creeping in, it’s important to be as present as possible for each slice / life scenario.

Tiffany Dufu (Author, Drop the Ball)

Tiffany Dufu (Author, Drop the Ball)

Men’s Perspectives Add Depth to S.H.E. Summit

Takeaways from Women at CEB member Tonja Hardyman, New Product Development Consultant

At the summit attendees also heard from speakers representing the male perspective, on various topics including parental leave and workplace sponsorship to elevate women.

From left to right: Claudia Chan (Founder, S.H.E. Summit), Wade Davis (Former NFL Player), Simon Isaacs (Co-Founder, Fatherly), Adam Parker (Chief US Equity Strategist, Morgan Stanley), and Connor Beaton (Founder, ManTalks)

From left to right: Claudia Chan (Founder, S.H.E. Summit), Wade Davis (Former NFL Player), Simon Isaacs (Co-Founder, Fatherly), Adam Parker (Chief US Equity Strategist, Morgan Stanley), and Connor Beaton (Founder, ManTalks)

Parental Leave and Parenting: Simon Isaacs (Co-Founder, Fatherly) discussed how as a society we are still struggling for men to take their parental leave and that many fear consequences of being perceived as less dedicated if they take their leave. He pointed out that when men take the same leave as women, it helps gender equality overall and can diminish the increased work-life conflict men often face after having children. Isaacs also reminded us that “if you want to have it all, you have to half it all” when it came to home responsibilities, and sometimes this means letting go of having something done the way you want.

Elevating Women at Work: Zara Mirza (Creative Director, Bacardi) talked about seeing men at the top of her organization and thinking “you guys are the ones who are going to get me there.” She also reflected on the role that Michael Dolan (CEO, Bacardi) played as a career sponsor. Dolan pointed out that some men are used to mentoring other men and may inadvertently send out small signals about who is important and who is not (such as by inviting people to a dinner or golf game). He emphasized using his own signals to indicate that Zara was meant to “sit at the table” and also discussed Bacardi’s proactive effort to diversify by ensuring they have at least one female candidate for each major position.

From left to right: Moira Forbes (EVP, Forbes), Michael Dolan (CEO, Bacardi), Adeline Gray (Olympic Wrestler), Zara Mirza (Global Director Marketing, Bacardi), and Cindy Whitehead (CEO, The Pink Ceiling)

From left to right: Moira Forbes (EVP, Forbes), Michael Dolan (CEO, Bacardi), Adeline Gray (Olympic Wrestler), Zara Mirza (Global Director Marketing, Bacardi), and Cindy Whitehead (CEO, The Pink Ceiling)

The S.H.E. Summit connected closely to Women at CEB’s mission to “contribute to the professional development, impact, retention, and attraction of women by providing a supportive network to exchange ideas, explore career paths, support equality of opportunity, and unlock leadership potential.” The Women at CEB conference delegates look forward to bringing these insights back to CEB’s partners, communities, and colleagues to create an even more inclusive environment where everyone can thrive.

 

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